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Narcissism for Black Women: The Very Good and Healthy Expression of Deep Self-Love, and Extreme Self-Devotion. Why? Because It's Good For Ya! And Sometimes I Write about Natural Hair, Among Other Things


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Rihanna – Stay ft. Mikky Ekko | Pink – Just Give Me a Reason ft. Nate Ruess

He’s so very cute, that Mikky Ekko. Doesn’t she look like she’s trying to fart in the tub at the end? That expression on her face…. Like the video, I only wish they’d been fair and have him without that sweater on. Nice arms.  😀   I like this song too.  

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Relationship Barriers: Black Women, White Men and Other Non-Black Men

Note: Let me put my caveats up front. This post obviously does not apply to each and every black woman, since some of us are flexible, flirtatious, and at ease with white and other non-black men. The Swirl Imperative: Becoming More Social There is no shame in lacking a flirting game or being a bit […]

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Black Women: Why is the Wall Street Journal, and the media, still talking about our marriage prospects?

I liked this comment by Daphne so much, I made it a separate post. Check out the following. Regarding the WSJ* article making the rounds: I found it bizarre that this was in the The Wall Street Journal*, just like I thought it was bizarre there was a similar article about black women in The […]

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Black Woman: Would You Marry a Blue Collar White Man?

The Question Asked of me by C.B.: If you are educated, would you or have you married a blue collar wm? Many folks are quick to suggest bw take or accept a lower level bm on the academic and economic label. Why is this a problem if a bw marries a wm on a lower […]

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Continuing The Nice Good … Love Is a Numbers Game, Play It Serious

How to Play It Serious The best information always comes from the comments section. I’d like to highlight these tips from Lisa: I started reading BWE blogs when I was 27 and now I’m married at 32. I might still be thinking about all the time I have and feeling that there’s “no rush” if […]

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Our Cinderella Has Blossomed: Monae Gives Us An Update

I love good news. I love to hear when things are looking up for young black women. Monae is a contributor  from an older thread, For Black Women: Why White Men are a Better Choice. She asked for help and received a delightful outpouring of advice. Here’s an update from our young lady: OMG, it’s […]

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Black Women – Devil’s Advocate: You Gotta Chase a White Man

It’s September, and it’s Devil’s Advocate* month. Let’s have some fun, shall we? You’ve been dateless, man-free, and frustratingly single this entire summer, month, year, decade, or century. All these BWE / BW-IR blogs are starting to work your last nerve. Why? You are getting so effing tired of hearing all these damn rules of […]

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For Black Women: Please Have Sex With White Men

That got your attention, didn’t it? Apparently, my old, old post Why White Men are a Better Choice was interpreted (by the mentally handicapped and functionally illiterate) as a heartfelt plea for black women everywhere to sex it up with all the nearest and available white men. It seems that I’ve been successful at convincing […]

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Black Magazines, Black Fashion: Burt-Murray Goes White and Vogue Africa is Fiction

Total Fiction: Vogue Africa Vogue Africa by Mario Epanya Vogue (Africa) doesn’t exist, but the pictures circulating the web are fascinating, intriguing, and perplexing. The photographer is Mario Epanya. He wanted Vogue (Conde Naste) to have this magazine showcasing Africa. I’m curious and would like to ask: couldn’t he find investors in oil-rich Nigeria, diamond-rich […]

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For Black Women: When Your Choices Make Other People Or Your “Friends” Mad

The following comment, and question, was sent to me by the intelligent and lovely Chocolatestar: I wanted to send you this video and get your thoughts on this. I’m not sure if it’s just me and my strong opinionated personality, but i’m quite tired of black women bashing other black women, who call black men […]

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For Black Women: When White Men Are Buddies With a “Brotha”

When a white man is buddies with a “brotha”, I know I don’t want him. The white guy doesn’t have to “hate” black men, but if he’s one of those white guys who feels like he needs to have street cred, or likes to call black men “brothas”, then I don’t wanna see ya. I […]

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For Black Women: White Men Hunting – Lesson Number 92

Sometimes the comments are so good, they get their own posts. In this one, White Men Hunting – Lesson Number 92, you will have the answers to oft-repeated questions, such as: Where are the white men? How do I find one? How do I get one to ask me out? I don’t look like Beyonce […]

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Wing Men Wanted for Jill Scott!

Wanted-for-hire: Tall, not too buff, white and/or Asian man, martial arts expert, needed to play the roles of Wing Men for Jill Scott. Must be fluent in hood speech (you just need to understand the latest slang). You must be able to name all of her songs, and be acquainted with the foods she craves […]

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For Black Women: Why White Men are a Better Choice

A topic guaranteed to make your teeth grind or make you smile. I am tongue in cheek, so if you don’t see any clarifications like the word some, I still don’t mean all. So, I’m looking around the web, and as a woman who likes men I’m seeing a positive development: black women affirming an […]

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When Black Women Choose To Date Inter-Racially, They Are Not Abandoning Their Race

The following quote comes from Womanist Musings Blog. She is so on point. The first love of a Black woman’s life should always be herself. We have been taught to devalue ourselves because this strengthens not only the Black male patriarchy but patriarchy in and of itself. Any man that refuses to treat you like […]

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Rant: To People Who Compare Every Politically Incorrect Expression or Treatment to "the Blacks"

Stop it right now. Stop those trite, irritating, and annoying expressions of “Well, it is like doing X against the blacks,” or “Well, it is like using the N-word to describe group Y,” or the all time favorite, “Group Z going through this discrimination is like doing this to the blacks.” For real though, those […]

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Change We Can Believe In: Sammy Sosa Turns White

No comment on this one. Okay … I’ll just say this: no surprise. The black guys (in the entertainment industry) wish they could be this bold. Instead, they take the slick route, doing the same thing, gradually becoming lighter. All he needs now is a nose job, and he can become the “white” man he […]

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If Black Women Were White Women by Alienated Conclusions

I am not a feminist / womanist, or whatever women decide to call themselves these days. I just believe in freedom, respect, prosperity, and the right to live a decent life as a human being for black women! The following essay was very well written. The author flips the script on the madness we’ve all […]

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On the Horizon: School and Travel Plans for the Fall

Recommended Reading: Goals, Planning, and Execution I’ve finished one set of classes. This month I have to make some preparations. I’m great at planning; it’s the follow-through that’s harsh. I’ve finally decided do some moderately serious non-fiction reading. I’ve acquired (via the library) a list of books to read by Barbara Sher. It was recommended […]

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