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Narcissism for Black Women: The Very Good and Healthy Expression of Deep Self-Love, and Extreme Self-Devotion. Why? Because It's Good For Ya! And Sometimes I Write about Natural Hair, Among Other Things


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Decepticons: The Jason Collins Story and Wasting Years of Your Life Waiting on Him

Long-winded title, but hoping you get the point. Maybe you’ve heard about it. Maybe you’ve been blissfully unaware of the hullabaloo that’s dominated the mainstream media for a couple of days. See, what happened is an NBA baller (snicker) earned his 15 minutes of fame by declaring that he is – wait for it – wait for […]

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So, President Obama Cannot Call A Black Woman “Best Looking”?

Spot Check: Controlling That Narrative About Beauty I’m not the biggest fan of the man, based on his performance in office, but the shrieking and howling by the media is hilarious. All I notice is that the biggest complainers of the President calling Kamala Harris, “The best-looking Attorney General in the country,” were white women […]

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What Kind of Black Woman Are You?

I thoroughly enjoyed the following comment by Stacey, so I decided to make it a post. By the way, the post title is a general question, not aimed specifically at Stacey. The following continues the discussion originating in the Black Actress Review: Just Wright – Big Boned Gurl Gets Good Guy Balla post. Stacey says: Ok, I must […]

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Victimizing Black Women: NY Times Thinks Cure for Black Women and Black Family Poverty is “Let Em Out of Jail”

According to the “experts” they sought out for this article, black males have been locked up for far too long. If you want to read an institutional and media driven message – that hurts black women – the following NY Times article is a prime example: Long Prison Terms Eyed as Contributing to Poverty It’s so […]

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Wayne Brady vs Bill Maher: How a Good Brotha Fights A Bad White Man

He does it by talking about the black women (of questionable repute) that the “bad white man” dates. Say What? Apparently, Wayne Brady (WB) got plenty tired of Bill Maher (BM) using his name to lament President Obama not being hardcore or thuggish enough to suit him. Perhaps both should search YouTube for that video […]

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Media Watch: Black Women and The Blind Side

I sorta liked this movie. Yet, I was also disturbed by it. I happen to like Sandra Bullock, even though her taste in men is dreadful. 🙂 So my criticism is of the film itself, and not her as an actress. Also, I’ve learned not to expect anything meaningful from Hollywood, especially with movies including […]

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Tips for Today’s Negroes: A Lesson in Manners

Who’s Your Daddy? Yeah, yeah, I know a lot of you did not have Fathers to teach you how to be a gentleman. And the likelihood is high that your Mothers probably didn’t have the time, inclination, or interest in teaching any of y’all manners. Maybe everybody thought that lil man ShayQuan being rude and […]

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Black Women: Why is the Wall Street Journal, and the media, still talking about our marriage prospects?

I liked this comment by Daphne so much, I made it a separate post. Check out the following. Regarding the WSJ* article making the rounds: I found it bizarre that this was in the The Wall Street Journal*, just like I thought it was bizarre there was a similar article about black women in The […]

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White Women

A while ago, someone sent an email asking why did I not write about white women. That was funny. The Proper Focus At the top of this blog, the stated purpose of this site is to acknowledge the awesomeness of BLACK women. I’ve been accused of being a white man at times (tee hee hee), […]

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I Hurt This Black Male’s Feelings. Weep For Him.

“Brian M.” has something to say. These are all his words. This kinda stuff one cannot make up. Go forth and tell us how you feel, kind Sir: Now look let me say this up front I am not here to pick a fight with you or anything I just going to say this because […]

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Black Women: Please Yourself First

Note: This is a random rant. I’m a selfish person. I’m not afraid to admit that. It’s probably because I’m the last child, the only girl, and spoiled rotten. I’m generous, friendly or kind – when it suits me. Guilt Gets One Nowhere. I’ve racked my brain to find instances of when I’ve pitched in, […]

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For Black Women – No Respect: Is It Open Season on Black Women and Black Girls?

Thanks for the various links Amanda (BWMM) and Bellydancer. 🙂 They Don’t Respect Disabled Little Girls: Papa’s Gotta Straighten Them Out A black father boards a bus to stop “children” from bullying his disabled daughter. I can tell you right now. Back in the day, if that had been me –  my Father, my Mother, […]

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Black Women – Devil’s Advocate: Are Black Males Real Men?

It’s September, and it’s Devil’s Advocate* month. I was sent a link to this picture. Thanks Chocholatestar. 😀 We don’t know who created it, but it does beg the question: Are black males real men? People like to pretend that out of wedlock (OOW) births are an issue that is the sole responsibility of, and […]

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For Black Women: Please Have Sex With White Men

That got your attention, didn’t it? Apparently, my old, old post Why White Men are a Better Choice was interpreted (by the mentally handicapped and functionally illiterate) as a heartfelt plea for black women everywhere to sex it up with all the nearest and available white men. It seems that I’ve been successful at convincing […]

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Rant: I Need My Own Cyrano De Bergerac

Granted, I can be a decent writer when I’m angry or in an especially good mood. I think my writing is even superb when I work at it. But I’m thinking there’s something off when I write a personal ad or even a resume. It’s odd how I put those two together, but they both […]

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Rant: What I Dislike About Being a Black Woman Sometimes

Oh, I like being a woman who’s also “black”, just fine, it’s people getting on my nerves that ruins it. You are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. People like making up these “what a black woman shouldn’t do” rules, because they are emotional bullies, hypocrites, and misogynists. If you work for […]

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When Black Women Choose To Date Inter-Racially, They Are Not Abandoning Their Race

The following quote comes from Womanist Musings Blog. She is so on point. The first love of a Black woman’s life should always be herself. We have been taught to devalue ourselves because this strengthens not only the Black male patriarchy but patriarchy in and of itself. Any man that refuses to treat you like […]

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Dear Pepsico,

Please note: I did send this note, via email. I just heard an ad for your “Refresh Project” and the music of John Mayer, “Waiting.” Is your advocacy also endorsing the words of a racist / sexist bigot? Is David Duke a part of your “Refresh Project” as well? You hypocrites can drop Tiger Woods, […]

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If Black Women Were White Women by Alienated Conclusions

I am not a feminist / womanist, or whatever women decide to call themselves these days. I just believe in freedom, respect, prosperity, and the right to live a decent life as a human being for black women! The following essay was very well written. The author flips the script on the madness we’ve all […]

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