The Next Disaster: Will It Be Us?

Does tragedy come in threes? fours? a score or more? I am certainly not wishing for it. I’ve been briefly taking in the news on Japan, because I don’t want to take it up to “disaster porn” level. I’m hoping that the Nuke Reactors get under control, and nothing worse happens.

Are You Ready For a Disaster?

Stay Prepared*

It’s a question one must ask these days. As we can see, even the most organized and wealthiest government(s) wont bring the kind of immediate help we see in Hollywood disaster movies. The reality would be like Katrina, if not possibly worse. In times of chaos, whether fast or slow, you have to rely on yourself, family, friends, and honorable acquaintances.

I don’t think anyone could ever been too prepared.

Based on the dangers in your area: flood, tornado, hurricane, or earthquake. Ask yourself this: Are you properly insured? Do you have backup copies of your personal papers off site? Maybe you decide to keep important papers in a bank safety deposit box?

If you have to run out the door (with the devil at your back) – is there a bag with first aid kit, spare underwear (never underestimate the need for extra knickers), wipes, water, snack(s), a bit of cash, etc. within reach to help if you cannot get back home right away?

I keep this stuff in my car – traffic can be hell in New Jersey. 🙂

Preparation List from Volunteer Mid-South

The American Boiling Frog

I keep feeling like there is some low-level stuff going on, creeping along, that’s bad, bad, bad, but we all cannot see it. Like the entire nation is a frog sitting in slowly boiling water.

The economy is in a grind. The cost of food is rising. Rising oil price is going to choke off economic growth. There are millions of people out of work, and likely millions more who are homeless.

Yet, the media doesn’t see or talk about them. Curious.

Come On! Must We Be Involved In Another War?

Deja vu all over again. Does no one in Washington, DC ever pay attention? How many times have we been thanked, after America has invaded to “help”, with terrorist attacks or “man-made disasters” and deadly shoot-outs? Sometimes it is best to stand by and watch people who are typically ungrateful and violent.

When our government gets involved for some reason – they don’t know when to leave. Is that the goal? Another country to have troops to sit in?

Do these people not remember that we had a no-fly zone over Iraq for nearly a decade?

I suspect, if the UN Resolution was enforced (to institute a no-fly zone over Libya), the media would immediately report that portions of that country revolting against Qadhafi or number of deaths were exaggerated.

Get Outdoors and Have Fun

Spring is here. Time to get out and play.

Have a good one.

*From the Red Cross – I make no money if you decide to buy that bag. I linked because I thought it was good source of information. 🙂

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Super Strong Single Black Woman Syndrome

It is one thing to be proud of the mythical black Momma who purportedly raised her children, half the block, worked three jobs, and is a care taker of a sick mother, siblings, and grandchildren. It is another thing to assume that she is a happy Super Strong Single Black Woman, who seeks more people to take care of.

At some point, she will stop and scream from exhaustion, “I can’t do it anymore!”

People have to stop looking for black women to do all of the care taking. Black women have to stop being willing to take care of everyone, and saying yes to everyone.

You cannot do it all alone. It’s not working.

There’s so much wrong with this Associated Press story, I don’t know where to begin. I’ll just put the excerpts out there.

I’m not condemning the women. I can only wonder why some black women put such enormous burdens on themselves, and other black women, without having a life replete with healthy relationships that are helpful to them.

This story is about Spc. Alexis Hutchinson, 21:

An Army cook and single mom may face criminal charges after she skipped her deployment flight to Afghanistan because, she said, no one was available to care for her infant son while she was overseas.

So, what happened?

[Hutchinson] claims she had no choice but to refuse deployment orders because the only family she had to care for her 10-month-old son – her mother – was overwhelmed by the task, already caring for three other relatives with health problems.

The Army requires all single-parent soldiers to submit a care plan for dependent children before they can deploy to a combat zone.

Let me see if I understand, Hutchinson knew her mother was overburdened – those things don’t happen overnight. She joined the military in 2007. Momma was already occupied and busy. This young woman has a child with the “baby’s father”, and is surprised that when she’s deployed her mother couldn’t handle the infant?

Did she readily assume, like some black women, and other people, that Momma was a Super Strong Single Black Woman? Why couldn’t she ask, or get, the “baby’s father” to look after the child? Why was the only person in the world she could depend on was her already overburdened mother?

Hutchinson is no longer in a relationship with the father [of the child].

Is that how it is today? You cut the guy off, because things don’t work out? Or is it the assumption that once the relationship ends the only thing the guy was good for was sperm donation? Is it really that easy for the guys? Is this how women let themselves and their offspring be treated? Are they ever going to teach their own sons to be respectful and responsible to the mothers of their children?

Hutchinson’s son, Kamani, was placed into custody overnight with a daycare provider on the Army post after she was arrested and jailed briefly, Larson said. Hutchinson’s mother picked up the child a week ago and took him back to her home in California.

Hutchinson’s mother had to come all the way across the country to Savannah, Georgia to pick up Kamani.

Look at the load Hutchinson’s mother, the Super Strong Single Black Woman is carrying. I’m not surprised her daughter thought she could do it all alone, and then some.

She’s already having to care for her ailing mother and sister, as well as a daughter with special needs. She also runs a daycare center at her home, keeping about 14 children during the day.

If Super Strong Single Black Woman collapses from exhaustion, who will be there to take up her burden? Her daughter?

Where are the men in this story? Why are some black women doing it all alone? Why are they teaching their children that men aren’t necessary? Why are they involved with males who wont be men? 

The “Black Community” Doesn’t Exist

I see this as the tip of a “black community” ice berg. Once the Super Strong Single Black Women starts to go the way of the American Passenger Pigeon (it’s extinct), who’s going to be left to take up the burden?

The government cannot raise children, nor take care of any individual, or group of society, only family can. How is the “black community” supposed to function if there’s no one left to take care of it and its offspring?

By the way, my answer isn’t the search for mythical “black love”, it is for Super Strong Single Black Women to put their burdens down and learn to say, “Oh, hell no. I am not doing that ever again.”

Learn to associate, and form reciprocal relationships, with men and women who can help you and you can help them.

Being a black woman doesn’t have to mean a life of suffering from day one.

Let it go. You are allowed. You need no one’s permission to be selfish.

It’s a healthy impulse to look after yourself first, that’s the key to a long happy life.

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