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Narcissism for Black Women: The Very Good and Healthy Expression of Deep Self-Love, and Extreme Self-Devotion. Why? Because It's Good For Ya! And Sometimes I Write about Natural Hair, Among Other Things


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Rihanna – Stay ft. Mikky Ekko | Pink – Just Give Me a Reason ft. Nate Ruess

He’s so very cute, that Mikky Ekko. Doesn’t she look like she’s trying to fart in the tub at the end? That expression on her face…. Like the video, I only wish they’d been fair and have him without that sweater on. Nice arms.  😀   I like this song too.  

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Decepticons: The Jason Collins Story and Wasting Years of Your Life Waiting on Him

Long-winded title, but hoping you get the point. Maybe you’ve heard about it. Maybe you’ve been blissfully unaware of the hullabaloo that’s dominated the mainstream media for a couple of days. See, what happened is an NBA baller (snicker) earned his 15 minutes of fame by declaring that he is – wait for it – wait for […]

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Black Women: When All Else Fails In Heterosexual Relationships, Become A

Did I get your attention? I’m warning those of you who are very tender and sensitive to be aware that the next few paragraphs will be no-holds barred, non-politically correct, coming from my perspective and experiences (off-line). So, this isn’t something I gleaned from reading anyone’s comments, blogs, Facebook profiles, or having a third eye […]

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What Kind of Black Woman Are You?

I thoroughly enjoyed the following comment by Stacey, so I decided to make it a post. By the way, the post title is a general question, not aimed specifically at Stacey. The following continues the discussion originating in the Black Actress Review: Just Wright – Big Boned Gurl Gets Good Guy Balla post. Stacey says: Ok, I must […]

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Black Women: We all cannot be instant best friends

In my opinion, friendships grow in the same manner as other relationships. There is a courtship or getting to know you phase. There is the gradual “tell me more about yourself” or “I’m telling you more about myself” phases. You share ideas. You share mildly humorous short stories. You share your food. You share your […]

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For Black Women: Don’t Ever Ask For Permission To Live

Spring is coming. Well, up here in the Northeast it’s coming. I’m sure for those of you around the country (or world) the weather is different. Could be blazing hot right now, eh? I haven’t been pro-active enough lately, or the last couple of months. I think I’ve spent more of it catching up, because […]

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The Jeremy Lin Show

NBA: Same Ol’ Same Ol’ It has been years since I’ve followed sports, basketball in particular. I watched the Knicks when Ewing played for them, that’s how long ago it’s been. And if you want to know how out of it I was, I’ve never watched Michael Jordan play. I’ve never tuned into his games. […]

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When Am I Gonna Write About ‘Black Love’?

One of these days, when I have the time… and it is Black History Month. Although if folks want to get the ball rolling you may start talking about it. 🙂

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Announcement: swirlingandmarriage.com

Introducing a website dedicated to dating, relationship, and coaching services for black American women who want to date interracially or internationally. Swirling & Marriage is brought you to by a truly awesome member of the BWE community Lorraine Spencer. In 2010 Lorraine helped highlight some sisters, which achieved international newspaper coverage. She also placed ads […]

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Ladies, Is He Good Enough For You?

As we often see in the news, or experienced based on observation, plenty of men reach powerful positions, have a lot of responsibilities, and will be totally, absolutely morally deficient. They will be amoral, immoral, with a massive touch of egotism. Oh, they’re Alpha Males alright, better known as dogs, not wolves. Dogs are wonderful […]

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Relationship Barriers: Black Women, White Men and Other Non-Black Men

Note: Let me put my caveats up front. This post obviously does not apply to each and every black woman, since some of us are flexible, flirtatious, and at ease with white and other non-black men. The Swirl Imperative: Becoming More Social There is no shame in lacking a flirting game or being a bit […]

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Black Women: Why is the Wall Street Journal, and the media, still talking about our marriage prospects?

I liked this comment by Daphne so much, I made it a separate post. Check out the following. Regarding the WSJ* article making the rounds: I found it bizarre that this was in the The Wall Street Journal*, just like I thought it was bizarre there was a similar article about black women in The […]

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Black Woman: Would You Marry a Blue Collar White Man?

The Question Asked of me by C.B.: If you are educated, would you or have you married a blue collar wm? Many folks are quick to suggest bw take or accept a lower level bm on the academic and economic label. Why is this a problem if a bw marries a wm on a lower […]

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Everclear – Father of Mine

Great song. Very poignant. I know guys who didn’t grow up with a father, and it will bother them until the day they die. The pain never goes away.

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Independence Day

A short note here: This is not only a day where the country is celebrating independence from its colonial ruler, remember that for you – it can be a day to celebrate your independence from toxic, negative, life-draining, selfish a**h*les! God bless America. Happy 4th of July everyone! Stay in good health and peace of […]

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Continuing The Nice Good … Love Is a Numbers Game, Play It Serious

How to Play It Serious The best information always comes from the comments section. I’d like to highlight these tips from Lisa: I started reading BWE blogs when I was 27 and now I’m married at 32. I might still be thinking about all the time I have and feeling that there’s “no rush” if […]

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National Dating Standards Lowered

From the Onion, where it’s sometimes hard to tell the truth from fiction. The goal is to make dating easier for everybody. Notice who the first interviewee is. {{eyebrows raised}} Yet, I could see the standards board becoming a reality, especially with this “we control everything” government. Of course, it’ll be run by the TSA […]

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The Nice Good Black Man

Using an interesting quote from Classic NYer: But that being said, perhaps I can show you another point of view. Take for example my brother, a stand -up individual raised by my mother and father with correct morals, treats his mother and two sisters with respect, graduated with degrees and working on another one, acts […]

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I Hurt This Black Male’s Feelings. Weep For Him.

“Brian M.” has something to say. These are all his words. This kinda stuff one cannot make up. Go forth and tell us how you feel, kind Sir: Now look let me say this up front I am not here to pick a fight with you or anything I just going to say this because […]

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Black Actress Review: Just Wright – Big Boned Gurl Gets Good Guy Balla

I like Queen Latifah (Dana Owens), so I am willing to sit down and watch her movie(s). Long Descriptions Ahead Did I like Just Wright? To be honest, I dunno. Sometimes I’m too busy thinking about its message to appreciate whether it was fun to watch or not. What message? Oh, the Good Employed Hard […]

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