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Narcissism for Black Women: The Very Good and Healthy Expression of Deep Self-Love, and Extreme Self-Devotion. Why? Because It's Good For Ya! And Sometimes I Write about Natural Hair, Among Other Things


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Open Forum: What’s On Your Mind? Talking About Self-Control and Happy Memorial Day

Happy Memorial Day, everyone. May our troops, veterans and allies stay safe. *** Time Travel(s) I’m in the middle of a long, lovely, idyllic and idle weekend. Rather cold, but I like it like that. I remember a couple of summers a few years back that were rather chilly. Time is going by much too […]

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Are Black Children Too Stupid to Learn? Part II: Black and Asian People

I really liked the following comment by bretagne, so I decided to make it a separate post. This was in response to, “Are Black Children Too Stupid To Learn?” So, let it rip bretagne: We can never have these discussions without re-inscribing tropes about Asian achievement. As someone who has been teaching in the Korean […]

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Ladies, Is He Good Enough For You?

As we often see in the news, or experienced based on observation, plenty of men reach powerful positions, have a lot of responsibilities, and will be totally, absolutely morally deficient. They will be amoral, immoral, with a massive touch of egotism. Oh, they’re Alpha Males alright, better known as dogs, not wolves. Dogs are wonderful […]

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Independence Day

A short note here: This is not only a day where the country is celebrating independence from its colonial ruler, remember that for you – it can be a day to celebrate your independence from toxic, negative, life-draining, selfish a**h*les! God bless America. Happy 4th of July everyone! Stay in good health and peace of […]

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The Nice Good Black Man

Using an interesting quote from Classic NYer: But that being said, perhaps I can show you another point of view. Take for example my brother, a stand -up individual raised by my mother and father with correct morals, treats his mother and two sisters with respect, graduated with degrees and working on another one, acts […]

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I Hurt This Black Male’s Feelings. Weep For Him.

“Brian M.” has something to say. These are all his words. This kinda stuff one cannot make up. Go forth and tell us how you feel, kind Sir: Now look let me say this up front I am not here to pick a fight with you or anything I just going to say this because […]

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Black Actress Review: Just Wright – Big Boned Gurl Gets Good Guy Balla

I like Queen Latifah (Dana Owens), so I am willing to sit down and watch her movie(s). Long Descriptions Ahead Did I like Just Wright? To be honest, I dunno. Sometimes I’m too busy thinking about its message to appreciate whether it was fun to watch or not. What message? Oh, the Good Employed Hard […]

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A Brutal Murder in NYC: Some Women Better Wake Up!

Bellydancer quote – on why it’s good to be selfish: That is why I think some black women are afraid of BWE women is because they are tired of their trifling sons and other male relatives living and mooching off them and are looking at us like why don’t you want to take them off […]

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Black Women: Please Yourself First

Note: This is a random rant. I’m a selfish person. I’m not afraid to admit that. It’s probably because I’m the last child, the only girl, and spoiled rotten. I’m generous, friendly or kind – when it suits me. Guilt Gets One Nowhere. I’ve racked my brain to find instances of when I’ve pitched in, […]

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Harvard Business Review: Nine Things Successful People Do Differently

In an article for the Harvard Business Review, Heidi Grant Halvorson writes: Why have you been so successful in reaching some of your goals, but not others? If you aren’t sure, you are far from alone in your confusion. It turns out that even brilliant, highly accomplished people are pretty lousy when it comes to […]

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Our Cinderella Has Blossomed: Monae Gives Us An Update

I love good news. I love to hear when things are looking up for young black women. Monae is a contributor  from an older thread, For Black Women: Why White Men are a Better Choice. She asked for help and received a delightful outpouring of advice. Here’s an update from our young lady: OMG, it’s […]

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The Most Powerful Woman in the World is a Black Woman

Source Article by Reuters. I’ve decided to make October Black Women’s month! Time to focus on the positive. 😀 According to Forbes: (Reuters) – First lady Michelle Obama beat out heads of state, chief executives and celebrities to rank as the world’s most powerful woman in Forbes magazine’s annual listing on Wednesday. And third on […]

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Black Women – Devil’s Advocate: Has our femininity been denied?

It’s September, and it’s Devil’s Advocate* month. This topic will be a bit spicier than usual. Are black women allowed to be women? Has our femininity been denied or compromised? Do we have the right to be respected, protected, and cherished like all other women? We are accused of being jealous acid tossing lunatics by […]

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Black Women – Devil’s Advocate: Are Black Males Real Men?

It’s September, and it’s Devil’s Advocate* month. I was sent a link to this picture. Thanks Chocholatestar. 😀 We don’t know who created it, but it does beg the question: Are black males real men? People like to pretend that out of wedlock (OOW) births are an issue that is the sole responsibility of, and […]

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Black Women – Devil’s Advocate: You Gotta Chase a White Man

It’s September, and it’s Devil’s Advocate* month. Let’s have some fun, shall we? You’ve been dateless, man-free, and frustratingly single this entire summer, month, year, decade, or century. All these BWE / BW-IR blogs are starting to work your last nerve. Why? You are getting so effing tired of hearing all these damn rules of […]

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Rant: I Need My Own Cyrano De Bergerac

Granted, I can be a decent writer when I’m angry or in an especially good mood. I think my writing is even superb when I work at it. But I’m thinking there’s something off when I write a personal ad or even a resume. It’s odd how I put those two together, but they both […]

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Overcoming Social Anxiety

Embrace the nervousness! Conquer the fears! More information here.

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Shyness and Society Anxiety

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Goals Reset: Where Has the Time Gone? It’s May Already!!!!

Oh my goodness! This is crazy. I mean we are almost at the half point of this year already! Where did the time go? I’m scared I will look around and it’ll be Christmas again. Time for me to start my New Year’s Resolutions all over again. Gym Rat / Weight Loss I’ve been at […]

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Rant: What I Dislike About Being a Black Woman Sometimes

Oh, I like being a woman who’s also “black”, just fine, it’s people getting on my nerves that ruins it. You are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. People like making up these “what a black woman shouldn’t do” rules, because they are emotional bullies, hypocrites, and misogynists. If you work for […]

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