Blog Post for Friday: Deep Conditioning / My Own Concoction

Washed my hair this evening.

Oh, I love washing it too much.

Yet, I have to. I work out daily. And who wants to be engaging with people with a stinky head? It’s so not cool.

I made up a deep conditioning concoction. Made my hair so soft and smooth. Ummm. My hair loves oil in a creamy conditioner. I didn’t even have to blow dry. I had no knots! no tangles! very little shedding!

Aside from a few strokes, I did not (ok, barely) have to comb my hair!

Ingredients: Queen Helene Cholesterol, Extra Virgin Olive Oil, White Rain Coconut Conditioner, and the last of my Suave Coconut Conditioner.

I put the mixture into one of those wonderful McDonald’s plastic, sorta styrofoam (?) hard cup. I save the cups for henna mixtures too. I stirred my batch last night, and let it sit overnight.


Blog Post for Friday: The Pe(s)t

My cat is a 16 pound guy (pest) who tells me when it is time to eat.

In case I don’t get the message, he will glare at me for an hour or so. This will be followed by knocking over things to get my attention. Should that fail he’ll approach, and try to bite my ankles.

He’s a bit of a toe freak too.

If my Mom pets him too much and he’s had enough, he’ll reach out with his left paw (he’s ambidextrous too), and smack her hand away. He’ll follow with a right hook and meow like’s he’s upset.

He’s playful, and hits hard.

I don’t know how I ended up with such a bad animal. At least he doesn’t piss or buries excrement on the furniture. A crazy cat will do things like that.

He’s fussy. Muss up his fur and he’ll immediately commence to licking himself. He makes me wonder about people who refuse to groom themselves.

He’ll look up at me and meow like he thinks I will understand him. Who knows? Maybe on some level I do.

He’s very much a lap cat. He’s very affectionate. I can barely tolerate hugging people.

So when I’ve had enough of the purring and staring, I’ll toss him off of me.


Blog Post for Friday: Useless Blogging Advice

Rules I read a while ago. What was funny is that some of the most successful blogs break all these rules.

Blog consistently. Every day. Every other day. One must blog all the time.

Blogging about pets is a no-no.

Blogging about babies is a no-no.

Blogging about one topic all-the-time is a no-no.

Blogging about the intricate nonsense of your life is a no-no.

Don’t blog while drunk.

Don’t ever blog while angry.

Don’t create a blog solely to express anger.

Don’t create a blog with your real name.

Don’t blog with your real name.

Join every social networking website on the Internet.

Don’t join every social networking website on the Internet.

Have you opened a Twit(ter) account yet?

Don’t open a Twitter account.

Blogs should have a consistent theme, stick with it.


Natural hair: Follow the leader method by FamilyGoingNatural

Oh, she is so correct.

I understand that women are trying to find out what works for their hair, but it is like some don’t understand – keep it simple. If it feels “coarse” there may not be a product that softens it up, but if there is it shouldn’t be something harsh. A gradual approach – often using less products (1 or 2) is best.

The skin of our scalps is the thinnest part on the body. I don’t get why we are so rough with our hair, it’s very, very delicate. We have to ease up and leave it alone sometimes, even if we don’t think it looks spectacular.

Too many of us are going bald, because we “play” with it too much, and with too many toxic products.

Keep it simple: wash, condition, and keep it moist.

Treat your natural hair with lots of love and affection, then Leave It Alone!


The George Costanza Method

One of my all-time favorite shows, when I bother to contemplate and can recall it, is Seinfeld. In the beginning, when it was the Seinfeld Chronicles, I used to wonder how long it would last before NBC killed it. It was incredibly funny in a New York area inside-joke kind of way.

In the beginning, the show had low ratings, and there was an air of a show trying to feel itself and what its niche was. The show came alive once the quartet started to gel. Also, back then, I think network executives were more open-minded about letting an audience find a show.

Today, they don’t have such patience. I used to watch Reaper (online, since I do not own a television set!), and it was so funny. That was a show where nearly every line and situation was damn near hysterical. What made it funnier is that no one ever chuckled at the jokes and the show didn’t have a laugh track.

It was so good. Alas, it was canceled. Today, network executives are looking for instant hits that slowly bleed away their audience as opposed to the opposite track. Good luck with that strategy.

George Costanza

My favorite character was George Costanza.

I once spoke about him with a co-worker, and she loathed him.

I asked, Why?

She replied, He lacked morals, was dishonest, and willing to do anything to get what he wanted.

I replied, That’s what I liked about him.

Psychoanalysis, or Something Like That

It has been years since I read up on Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung, psychoanalysis, the Id, ego, and super-ego. Please forgive me for not getting the psycho stuff up to par.

I always saw Seinfeld as a guy, observing himself, in which his personality was split in four distinct ways. He was an introvert, watching, observing, very detached, and critical. He even admitted in one show that he had all the friends he could manage when another person tried to become a friend of his. That is classic introvert behavior.

Kramer was all impulse (id).

Elaine was the only adult in the group (ego). She was the planner, the studious one, and almost always honest.

Seinfeld was a neat and fussy perfectionist (superego). The show took off once it allowed him to date and evaluate what was wrong with every woman he met. The hilarity with the “man hands” woman, the lady with the one dress, the mutterer, and the designer who forced him to wear a ruffle shirt, among others, are instant classics.

Say what?

George was the composite of all these characteristics, warring with each other, and that’s why he was my favorite hot-ass-mess of the show. He seemed to be the only real person on the show.

The show’s most pivotal, and interesting point, came when George decided he was going to change from being a loser to finally winning at life. And how did he do it? He was going to ignore his gut feelings, and act on the facts in front of him.

It may have taken George all of his life, but he realized something about himself. His gut instincts suck. They mislead him all of his life. Every conclusion he had reached about social situations, career advancement, and people were completely wrong.

The light bulb went off when he decided to do the opposite of what his gut told him.

Do I believe it?

Fight or flight is a legitimate feeling in some circumstances, but relying on responding to the same situation in the same way, each and every time, is also known as insanity. Your experience and gut instincts have been failing you for some time now.

I don’t think it has to be a radical switch, but trying the George Costanza Method every once in a while will yield different results.

Go break the mold, you might be pleasantly surprised at the results.


Hair: Length Check and Bantu Knots

Note: My hair type is 4a-z, nappy, kinky, coily, cottony, soft, fine, moderately thick, and very very delicate.

Time to check the hair length again!

It grows so slow now-a-days. I’m still trying to figure out where that growth spurt a couple of years ago was due to.

I had to cut off 1/2 an inch to 1 inch on the ends, because I was getting irritated with knotting. I have to stay away from small two-strand twists; they are the cause of a lot of single strand knots for me.

This summer, I am doing the following for health and hair:

  • Eating a lot of fish, I’ve been consuming a lot of Japanese food too. I know not to eat too much, because of mercury concerns (among other pollutants / poisons).
  • The weather has been too cool for my stomach, but I hope I can start making my morning drinks again with carrots, bananas, yogurt, and flax seeds. Right now, all I eat is a banana for breakfast.
  • Taking vitamins roughly every other day. I’ve included a separate supplement of D3 and powdered C.
  • Working out (longer / harder). I’m working up to jogging longer than 10 minutes at a time; this is in addition to my walking and weight lifting.
  • Co-washing, which is washing with conditioners. Sometimes, I’ll shampoo.
  • No more flat ironing, although I itch, and ache, to every time I wash! I blow dry on a reasonable and comfortable heat setting. I always use a heat protectant!
  • I like to keep my hair completely covered under a scarf and /or in a protective style. If I do wear my hair “out”, I style it to look less than shoulder length.

I suppose if I flat iron, it would appear longer.

My standard routine, the changes are always minute:

  1. Saturate hair with White Rain Conditioner Coconut. I couldn’t resist buying it from the dollar store. I love this stuff cheap.
  2. Part hair into 4 sections – just the hands, no comb! – braid the root, and twist to the ends.
  3. Apply castor oil to ends of hair, around the hairline (edges), and the crown where I always part the hair, which is prone to dryness and breakage.
  4. Put on plastic cap, cover with scarf. Sleep on it, overnight.
  5. Exercise.
  6. Wash hair. Open each section at a time, wash scalp thoroughly, comb gently with fingers, re-braid and re-twist.
  7. Wrap tightly with a towel. No rubbing.
  8. Open each section at a time, apply heat protectant, make smaller sections, and blow dry hair.
  9. Bantu knot each section.
  10. Done.

I tried to do a silk wrap (sitting under the dryer with a plastic wrap around smoothed hair), but my hair laughed at my efforts.

I think it will be next year, before I do this again.


Business Failures: Contempt for Customers

The number 1 reason why businesses fail: contempt for customers, often translated and dressed up as falling sales, or loss of revenue. It probably used to take over 10, maybe even 50 years, before it completely collapsed, but today I don’t think that is feasible. Word of mouth travels too fast today.

Companies can spend as much as they like to keep good face. Money will be misallocated on public relations, campaign contributions, sweet talking and bribing big media people to lace every “report” with hyped talking points, and getting writers to spread positive, albeit ridiculous and nonsensical, counter points electronically, or in whatever medium they can flood.

However, nothing matches the fine fury of a person(s) who feels pissed off, gypped, robbed, and treated like fecal matter by a company. And the larger the organization, guarantees the hotter the raging inferno of consumer discontent.

Customer complaints are not hard to find. Before I make an expensive purchase, I review the angriest comments first. I always do. I don’t look at complimentary words: I suspect they were bought and paid for. If the story is reasonable, I take them into consideration. It does not mean that I would be dissuaded from making the purchase, but it fits into the aspect of “buyer beware.”

Fix It, Don’t Suppress It

Companies should embrace consumer complaints, and not try to snuff out, or execute, the people making them. Of course, there are people who are miserable about anything and are vindictive. However, if there’s a pattern, they should fix the issue, and stop hiding from it. A re-evaluation of the organization – top to bottom – should not be just a management fad, but an endeavor to help it survive long term.

I’ve worked for enough companies to realize that a lot of employees are not encouraged, or motivated, to function at anything besides the most basic, lowest, borderline level of service, competence, or concern about their work. They are as dismayed by management insouciance as the customers they have to interact with. If employees are indifferent, hostile or contemptuous they are only reflecting the incentives and culture cultivated by upper management.

Government Cannot Save Them

So, my feeling is this: the use of all these government funds, our tax dollars, to rescue failed or failing corporations is a waste of time, money, resources, and cripples future sentiment among the public to assist other organizations. No matter how much a portion of the economy a failed company claims to have, and it could be due solely to monopoly practices and political bribes, if it is dysfunctional, stagnant, contemptuous of its consumers, and poorly run – there will never be enough money to save it.


If the Media Goes Away, Is That Such a Bad Thing?

According to the New York Times today:

Millions of households will lose television reception next week when about 1,000 broadcasters around the nation shut off their analog signals and complete their conversion to digital programming, federal officials say.

And my response is, “Yay!”

Intelligence Quotients may rise.

People will rediscover that they can have a social life.

Children may actually do their homework.

Parents may find time to talk to their kids.

Imagine the money saved on electricity.

Imagine the lowered stress levels; not watching the evening, “If It Bleeds, It Leads” nonsense.

Image the number of hours gained back in household productivity – all the time people thought they didn’t have mysteriously appears.

I got rid of my television set, and cable subscription years ago. I laughed at this article, and others.

So, we are supposed to be concerned, because a few million screens will go blank? And that’s a problem, because of what? Oh, I get it! We need to see more stereotypes, idiotic talk show rantings, insulting images, degrading displays of anti-social behavior and regard that as entertainment? Spare me.

The real fear the media has is that once television sets go black, people might actually get used to keeping that crapola out of their lives.

Try it.

Let the television set stay black.

Learn to live without it.

Stay unplugged.

Life Style: Switching Up Routines

Time Flies

It is one thing to schedule events to keep the self busy, it is another to make sure they serve some purpose. Going out for the sake of going out can be a rather aimless waste of time as well.

Ever notice how everything happens at once? You get a phone call on the land line, and at the same time the door bells rings, and the cell phone goes off. I cannot tell you many times that happens. Weird.

The same situation occurs with expanding social and business activity. The busier you are, the busier you will become. Momentum gains activities speed up, and increases exponentially, or eventually spins out of control.

At some point, I reach overload and shut down. It hasn’t happened, yet. I have to pace myself.

Light Headed or Vertigo?

I bought a trampoline, because working out the same way all the time gets boring.

It makes me giggle after the first minute; after the second minute, I am ready to barf. I have a “light” head. I cannot ride roller coasters, or any gentle amusement parks rides (even the kiddie rides!) anymore.

After I get off the treadmill, it’s a disorienting experience. I’ll take a few steps, and everything in my peripheral vision moves along after a half-second time lag. It is such a weird sensation. Now, I wait a while before I get off, or I turn my head, and look around a bit before I take another step.

I prefer walking outside. My exercise routine is to walk slow, walk fast, attempt to jog and then cycle back to walk slow and walk fast. I used to be rather self-conscious about making an attempt to jog, but now I don’t care. It feels good to be able to do what I need to do to stay in shape and not worry about who’s watching, what they think, or have to say about it.