Happy Holidays: Hair Again – The Vanity Check

It’s been two years – I think – since I did a length check. It’s been a long time since I flat ironed my hair. I used a low temperature.

This will be my last length check, and putting up of online photos, since I am finally satisfied with my hair. It has never been this long before. Ever. I was a bald headed kid, and thinking back I’m glad I didn’t have much hair.

Oh, and Happy Holidays.

I usually don’t announce my hiatus, but I’ll be out of it for a couple of weeks. I have some books I need to finish (write, edit, polish, etc) up.

I may or may not respond to comments. Those who have access will be free to chat among yourselves.

Take care everybody. 😀

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16 Replies to “Happy Holidays: Hair Again – The Vanity Check”

  1. Hey, what have you been doing to grow your hair out? I have a relaxer, and I find my hair is thinning and breaking as I get older. I’d appreciate some advice. Thanks.

    GoldenAh: Hey, Sandra77. 😀

    Well, I’ve been natural for many years, but it would break a great deal and not grow longer. I realized I was treating it wrong, which is what I learned from natural hair web sites.

    I don’t let my hair get dry or crispy. The key is to use a product – oil or moisturizer – to keep it from breaking, and being very gentle with my hair. It still breaks very easily.

    My hair tangles a great deal, so I put my hair in big twists (5-8) when I wash. I wash with shampoo once a month (or sooner depending on season), but use conditioner weekly. I use a very mild moisturizing shampoo for curly hair that wont leave it squeaky. I wash each big twist at a time. I wash using the conditioner method: I put Olive Oil (or other light oil) with the conditioner.

    I don’t comb often. I use my fingers to de-tangle, and I only use the comb to part it. Some women use a comb when the hair is full of conditioner – while washing – to remove shed hair. It makes the drying and combing afterward easier to deal with.

    So, to repeat:

    • I keep it simple. I don’t comb my hair often. I keep the same style for a couple of weeks.
    • I keep it moist. I like to use oil with my conditioner washes.
    • Some women are very anti-heat, but I like to use my blow dryer to semi-straighten or stretch my hair. I use a tension method. I don’t find it damaging.
    • I like to keep it protected. So that would be styling like twists, braids, and ponytails or buns to keep it safe. To wear it loose, is to invite knots and grief. Trimming sometimes doesn’t hurt.

    It’s quite a boring routine actually, but it works. 😀

  2. Congratulations! I see your hair is looking good!

    GoldenAh: Thanks. The less I do to it, the better it behaves. 😀

  3. @ Sandra

    Is the thinning at the scalp? If you notice thinning at the scalp, and you are around 50 give or take in either direction then the issue may be internal. You can still get your hair long, but the approach would be different and there are things you can do give the impression of thickness.

    If you are under 50, not on meds, and notice that the thinning is through the body of the hair then the issue probably is external. And Goldie gave some good tips for that.

  4. Congrats on the length Betty, it looks good.
    Sandra, as was mentioned the issue may be internal (in which case a change/improvement in diet and/or supplementation may help).
    I second Betty’s notion about using conditioner to wash and keeping the hair moisturized, and not handling it too much. -ie combing
    flatironing
    brushing
    Daily wrappers sometimes complain of thinning. You should also look at your tools. http://www.tenderheaded.com has seamless combs, sating pillowcases, all the gentle tools you need to minimize breakage. (I do not own and am not affiliated with this company, this is just a place I patronize and love).

    GoldenAh: Thanks, Foreverloyal, especially for that link. I am tenderhead too.

    It’s funny when we begin to realize how uncomplicated our hair is, as opposed to what we may have learned growing up. 😀

  5. Looking good. I am hoping to get mine to that length. I have been natural for about 3 years now.I also have hair that breaks easily, so I take natural Biotin to strengthen it, do not handle or manipulate my hair as much (usually finger-comb), add oil to my conditioners (coconut and olive oil are good) and try to wear protective hairstyles (these are very important points that I am glad you mentioned). During the winter I use Vatika Frosting for an oil moisturizer (smells like cake, so you will want to eat it) which I purchased from http://www.hairveda.com (good site if you are into natural Ayurvedic products).

    Also @ Sandra, I have also become a label reader and avoid anything with mineral oil, petroleum (or petrolatum) or sulfates. Mineral oil and petroleum are agents that are used to add “shine” to black hair (this is the only thing that it does as it provides no other benefits to our hair), but they are drying to textured hair and of course dry hair leads to breakage. Many conditioners contain these and beware of oil sheen aerosol sprays.

    GoldenAh: Excellent advice. Oils like Coconut, Castor, and Olive are not only inexpensive, but they are good for our hair. Oils make a big difference in preventing breakage.

    You know, I’ve been anti-trimming for a long time, but I took to the scissors this year and I think it really helped. My ends were raggedy though. 🙂

    Thanks for the feedback, Likewaterforchocolat. 😀

  6. Have a great holiday Betty.I pray that you see progress with your writing etc.

    BTW.Your hair looks so good.It looks so thick.
    I grew up in a family of thin “fine” hair folks on my moms side,they really do have Indian in their family.You’d be surprised how many people covet your hair BC.You probably will get even more good comments on your hair as you get older if it keeps it thickness.My granny on my dad side had thick short hair her whole life.People really would fawn over her hair.Even well into her elderly years people loved and coveted her hair.

    GoldenAh: Nothing lures me out like a compliment. LOL. 😀

    Thank you for the comments, Truth P. I really appreciate it. Yeah, I’m working on the writing: it’s some tuff stuff!

    Happy Holidays to you as well. 😀

  7. Ok. Has any brave soul ever colored thier own hair? I am seriously considering it.

    GoldenAh: I’ve used Henna, but my hair color didn’t change. 🙂

  8. Girl your hair looks great. wish I would keep up with my routine. My hair would still be longer, but also thicker (the first thing to happen. lol)

    Castor’s also good for other things. I had a co-worker who reminded me of the dad from My Big Fat Greek Wedding with the Windex. LOL

    My great grandmother used castor oil for the monthly body cleansing if you know what I mean.

    GoldenAh: Hey, BWMM. Merry Christmas, and thanks for the compliment. 😀

    Yeah, Castor Oil is dynamite, definitely my hair staple, and Coconut Oil is something I’m beginning to use a lot of – with a light touch. Plus I consider my routine a non-routine. It’s about doing as little as possible….

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