6 thoughts on “Everclear – Father of Mine”

  1. Wow! Everclear. Brings back memories. They did a song of Rudolph the Red Nosed Raindeer. Great band. I loved this song.

    GoldenAh: It is enjoyable. An instant classic. 🙂

    Great to hear from you, BWMM.

  2. Ah, thanks for the thread and the kind words.

    I learned in therapy that just because someone doesn’t love you, that doesn’t make your unloveable. Sure, due to DNA I ‘feel’ my father in my spirit but I’m glad that I got to tell him-right after my dear Mother passed-that he and men like himself have ruined the Black community by neglect, and that he is a horrible person.

    But if I had depended on the church, instead of therapy to get me through the struggle of having an absentee dad, I’d be a pissed off single mother!

    GoldenAh: Just because someone doesn’t love you, that doesn’t make you unloveable. That’s truly an awesome expression, and it’s the best advice I’ve seen regarding how to deal with the emotions of others. It is so true: We are not and cannot be responsible for how others feel. That’s on them. And that’s especially important for people who are coming to terms with rejection.

    Regarding therapy: When I was back in college I had myself screened for depression, and another time when one of my jobs was making me miserable. In both cases, I was considered mildly depressed, but it was not the kind that required therapy.

    And I consider getting screened for emotional problems as valid and necessary as getting a physical.

  3. I am glad I stopped long enough to view the video. He says he was the only white kid in a black neighbor, now that can be tough.

    Since my son is an adult he is on the other side of my father left me syndrome.
    Finally, after twenty plus years my ex-husband and I have settled any child support issues. He is now trying to work on building his relationship with our son. Unfortunately, my son and his finance had gotten into a big argument and the police was called in.
    I must say his Dad stepped up to the plate and gave us all of the assistance he could offer to us.
    My son and his finance(?)are now building that bridge of trust again. My former husband and our son are communicating better, hopefully their communication will improve over time. I support them both.

    My ex’s good friend (who is a very good husband and father) was instrumental in assisting us in getting past some of our past issues. I wish happiness to all of the kids who feel they were left behind.

    GoldenAh: Although it may take years, it is good to hear that fences and relationships are being mended. Sometimes a family can start off happy together then slowly or rapidly disintegrate due to financial problems, deaths and other disasters. I’ve seen it happen. It’s heartbreaking when it affects the kids.

    Glad to hear things are working out for you. Despite it all, family and reliable friends are all we’ve got.

    Thank you for for the contribution, Anonymous. 🙂

  4. Yeh I’m in that club- after the divorce daddy walked away married again and for decades has refused to return phone calls.

    Therapy helps LOTS of therapy 🙂

    GoldenAh: So sorry to hear that. It’s one thing to be mad at the ex-spouse, but to take it out on the kids? Is it forgivable? I guess the therapist has the best answer. I hope they do help.

  5. Wow, this song really takes me back.

    It’s actually one of my favorites by them, with a very emotional and relatable message for many people.

    I also like “Wonderful” for the same reason.

    GoldenAh: Oh, I have to check that one out…

    It might not be a good comparison, but this song made me think of Tupac’s Dear Momma. With Father of Mine, the white guy holds his father responsible for his childhood pain, since he is the family caretaker. With Dear Momma, the black guy raps an emotionally complicated song laying everything at his mother’s door. No mention of his father at all, if I recall correctly.


  6. “My daddy gave me his name and he walked away” very powerful.

    Thank you for introducing me to this artist and sharing.

    GoldenAh: You are welcome, Mahogany. It’s one of my favorites. 🙂

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