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How’s It Going Folks?

Posted on | July 23, 2013 | 40 Comments

Things are definitely looking up for my family member. No longer seriously ill and the recovery is coming along nicely.

Thanks for all the well wishes. Now, I can totally stop worrying – at least about this….  :D

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So, what’s new?

I figure I’d throw something up just to let you know I’m still here. I was going to write a detailed long winded post, but not right now. It takes me time to sink my teeth into a subject. That’s how it is being a slow writer.

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Hope everyone is enjoying their summer. I went down to Atlantic City the day after 4th of July. The boardwalk has been rebuilt and you wouldn’t even know that Hurricane Sandy had thoroughly trashed and wiped it away.

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Anyway, hope everyone is taking care of business and doing all right.

Cheers. 

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40 Responses to “How’s It Going Folks?”

  1. Formavtiae
    July 26th, 2013 @ 3:51 PM

    Hello, Betty.

    It always makes me happy to hear about the recovery of patients. I’M GLAD this period of testing is now lifting for you. It’s such a relief to have positive outcomes after remaining strong during a series of trials.

    I’M VERY HAPPY FOR YOU.

    GoldenAh: Well, I’ve been scrambling the “jets” and getting my act together. Been working hard to resolve one issue after another, in between having panic attacks. I really don’t like to lose. :D

    My relative is coming along nicely. I think when someone is ill, the best we can do is show up and somehow give them our strength by letting them know we believe they will get better. It’s the only philosophy I can adhere to. I don’t express pessimism, but admiration for the speed of their recovery. Best I can do.

    And thank you for your support, Formavitae. It is appreciated. :)

  2. Dreadnought
    July 29th, 2013 @ 5:55 PM

    Glad things are getting better

    GoldenAh: Thank you, Dreadnaught. I appreciate it.

  3. Oshun
    August 2nd, 2013 @ 9:46 PM

    Hi Betty!

    I am so glad that things are better for you! I am going to wish you an early birthday as I know it is coming up…Leo’s are supposed to be getting a big boost this month! Here’s sending some sunshine and fairy dust your way!

    GoldenAh: Thank you, Oshun! You remembered that I’m a Leo? I’m flattered. Yeah, the b’day is rolling around. That’s why I’m pressing to get things I’ve been putting off done. I figured the stars may be aligned to allow me to do it more smoothly, if not easier, and faster. I’m always careful what I wish for since the Devil is always waiting to get into the details. :D

  4. Faith
    August 5th, 2013 @ 8:10 AM

    Hey!!!

    GoldenAh: {{waving}} How’s it going? :D

  5. Oshun
    August 9th, 2013 @ 12:33 PM

    Update on me. I got a much better job. I start in September. Networking is paying off. Side hustle is coming together. Still planning on leaving the country.

    I am a white man magnet. Its odd. I can be in a sea of black people and any wm in a 1/2 mile radius will find me. I kid…but seriously.

    I have mastered the art of the two strand twist. I finally colored my hair. It is not the color I originally wanted, but it is easier and works. I also have blonde highlights that I do myself.

    Finally got some more clothes and shoes.

    GoldenAh: Awesome. Good for you and congratulations, Oshun! If I had time I’d put henna in my hair, but it’s a lot of work. Maybe the next holiday weekend, I’ll take a day and get down to it.

    I’m thinking I don’t want to grow old in the USA, not if it continues on this track. I cannot blame Tina Turner, if I had her bank, I’d leave too and stay gone. In this day and age, there’s nothing the USA has that other countries don’t have (if not better).

    As long as you have the right skills, you can go anywhere.

  6. Oshun
    August 9th, 2013 @ 12:34 PM

    The job telecommutes…so I can move around at will and work on the side hustle more freely.

    GoldenAh: Sweet. That is nice. My job commute is knocking the stuffing out of me. In what should take 45 minutes sometimes takes 90 minutes to get home. Traffic is crazy these days. I’m too tired these days….

  7. Formavtiae
    August 10th, 2013 @ 2:30 PM

    CONGRATS, Oshun!

  8. sheila
    August 17th, 2013 @ 6:14 AM

    Rich black men like Russel simmons – defender of black men only. While denigrating or not defending black women every chance he gets. And thinking he has two daughters who he would not want anyone joking about harming. Turning black women and slavery into a joke with harriet tubman is unforgivable. And I’m sure that clowning trayvon martin or oscar grant would cause outrage among blacks. While doing the same to black women is considered funny. No other race of men on the planet disrespects women like black men. Black men as a collective are losers.

  9. Oshun
    August 17th, 2013 @ 2:12 PM

    @ Goldie

    You are welcome! Yes, I remembered. I am wishing much luck and success with all of your goals!

    And thank you for the Congrats!

    I am a little scared of Henna as I love color so much, but I have seen the results and it looks awesome. I am sure you will look lovely. It can be your birthday treat. :)

    “I’m thinking I don’t want to grow old in the USA, not if it continues on this track.”

    I have been thinking this too. I had a WW friend who is now an ex-friend, thank the heavens, that I said that to last year and she was shocked. She was just flabbergasted that I could even think that any other country could be better than the U.S. I looked at her like are you crazy?? What planet are you living on? Do you not see what is happeneing?

    I don’t want to get old here either. I am scared as hades. This place is a mess. And I don’t want to be collateral damage.

    It seems like all the people I used to know even people in my family are on the razor’s edge. (Knock hard on wood) Underemployed or unemployed + DBR BM and BW who keep having babies like it is 1945 and we are going through an economic boom = disaster.

    I have mule aunts who work full time and have nothing to show for it. They keep coming around asking for financial help and food because they are supporting DBR family who do nothing, but leech and keep up drama and discord and have babies. These women are too young for assistance late 40s- 50s and make too much money according to the poverty scale, but they are drowning.

    They have taken in a lot of DBRs (sons usually) and their baby mamas, and toddlers and newborns. And the suffering is palatable.

    I have one aunt who is supporting her son, his wife, and their two children. Sometimes their utilities are on and sometimes not. Sometimes the rent gets paid and sometimes it is 4 months behind.

    I am not an advocate for aid, but they need to apply for it. And they won’t. They won’t even try to get food stamps, which is the least they could do, and then buy food for the whole house. They also will not clean or cook and then will cuss her out. So she comes over here hunting for food.

    Then the people on her job are trying to force her out because they want to use temp workers not people they have to pay benefits too. If she loses her job she is up crap creek and so are they.

    My next door 40 something neighbor is one of the sorriest things I have ever seen. He has moved in with his grandmother and is leeching off of her because I guess it is so hard out there that baby mamas and desperate women are putting these men out. I am noticing a phenomenon where DBRs are just piling up on older female family members like never before.

    And then they are talking about drug law reform, which I guess is good, but if these men could not get it together to at least get a good side hustle going before they went to prison like lawn service, roofing, plumbing

    (and I don’t need excuses because among the older generation of men in my family non of them were certified, but if we need some pipes replaced or a room added on or an engine rebuilt or some new wiring run we call them and the end result works)

    …then how are these guys going to be after these changes take place?

    I keep trying to run interference because I don’t want anyone around me. I am moving as fast as I can. I told my mother to keep her mouth SHUT about my new job and my side hustle. For the first time in my life I am GLAD that people underestimate me.

    I let people think I still have my old piece of job, but lately I have been telling them that I am unemployed. This works well because I will be working from home a bit. I don’t want anyone making me a target.

    Just this week one my mom’s friends had someone try and break into her shed. She said that she lived in the same neighborhood for almost 30 years and no one has ever tried to rob her. I am hoping her house isn’t next.

    Wow a 90 minute commute. Goodness. That is ridiculous. I don’t know how people do it. I told my mom when I was looking for something better that I wanted the option to telecommute because gas was going crazy. I refuse to spend 4.00 a gallon. That would really add up and the time aspect like you said of the commute itself.

    I am sending positive goal accomplishment vibes your way!

  10. Oshun
    August 17th, 2013 @ 2:16 PM

    Thank you Formavtiae! It has been in the works for a while. A lot of starts and stops. False leads and dead ends, but I kept going. I don’t want to look a gift horse in the mouth, but I hope this all continues…

  11. Oshun
    August 17th, 2013 @ 2:18 PM

    @Shelia

    You are going to have to just turn away from them. Those types are your enemy. I know it is upsetting, but the best protection you will get is from other groups of men who are normal.

  12. Sheila
    August 17th, 2013 @ 6:09 PM

    No worries Oshun! ;-) ;-) I’m not even attracted to black men. So they’re not even on my radar. Just making the correlation between many blacks who dislike racist whites, but have nothing to say about the black people who kill and abuse each other daily in violent communities. And black men keep proving my point of how they much they hate black women when they keep publicly denigrating or abusing them, and then offering fake apologies.

  13. Formavitae
    August 18th, 2013 @ 4:31 AM

    @Oshun

    THAT’S. DRAMA.

    Yikes!

    I’m glad you’re keeping the bad seeds away from you. And, I hope this fortuitous streak continues for you, also.

    While I look forward to traveling outside the U.S., I still feel optimistic about my opportunities within the country. But, whenever, I hear about AA women relocating and expanding their options abroad, I get SO EXCITED! So, I wish you the best, on your quest.

    I have been kind of tired of my grind lately. But, life has brought a wonderful opportunity I thought I’d missed back into my grasp. So, I am both excited and scared to take hold of the reins and move forward. But, I’m going to. I feel fortunate and blessed.

    Well, keep up the good work, and continue to share your joyous news! :)

  14. Formavitae
    August 18th, 2013 @ 4:39 AM

    @Sheila

    Russell is SO DISGUSTING. This debacle just goes to show you how self-loathing and apathetic AAs have become. I can imagine any other culture making such a mockery of their ancestors and heroes. AAs just don’t know what is funny.

    This guy is SOOOO UNATTRACTIVE. He’s lucky he’s got money, otherwise he’d have a hard time getting laid. It’s time for him to go the way of the dinosaur, since he already looks like one.

  15. Formavitae
    August 18th, 2013 @ 4:40 AM

    @Sheila

    I CAN’T imagine…

  16. sheila
    August 18th, 2013 @ 4:28 PM

    Formavitae – I can’t imagine. —-Can’t imagine what?

  17. Oshun
    August 19th, 2013 @ 10:03 PM

    I saw what you were talking about Shelia. Not the video, but I saw some screencaptures. I am not surprised. Not at all. I am sure it was very calculated. Its not like this guy doesn’t have a brain.

  18. Oshun
    August 19th, 2013 @ 10:06 PM

    @ Formavitae

    It is. And I want to keep the drama and the bad juju faaar away from me. Sometimes I feel like jumping out of my skin and running away because things aren’t moving fast enough, but I know that wouldn’t be wise.

    Congratulations on the opportunity coming back around for you! That is wonderful news!

    Thank you for the kind wishes and you do the same with sharing your good news! :)

  19. Formavitae
    August 20th, 2013 @ 6:51 AM

    @Sheila

    I can’t imagine any other culture making a mockery of their ancestors.

  20. Formavitae
    August 20th, 2013 @ 6:57 AM

    @Oshun

    THANK you, and STAY STRONG.

  21. Eva
    August 20th, 2013 @ 9:37 AM

    I don’t blame people for wanting to leave this country.

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/19/billie-jacob-james-vogel-_n_3779694.html

    Just awful.

  22. Eva
    August 21st, 2013 @ 8:02 AM

    So I went to see my mom on Sunday and she said, “do you want to see something disgusting?” Then she showed me this:

    http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/man-sleeps-subway-leaving-child-unattended-article-1.1429814

    And I’m like, “Why am I not surprised?”

  23. KP
    August 25th, 2013 @ 10:56 AM

    Glad that all is well with your family member! That’s great news and I’m sure a great relief for you!

    Those photos are absolutely beautiful. I’ve never been to Atlantic City, not much of a gambler, but I’d still like to make my way there some time as I’m sure there’s more to the city than that.

  24. Truth P.
    August 27th, 2013 @ 3:58 AM

    Hi,Betty. I’m beginning to think that the murder of Christopher Lane WAS a hate crime.Even though some deny it.I believe two of the boys are biracial with black fathers and the one who pulled the trigger is black and has a white girlfriend and previously wrote that he hates 90% of white people.I am beginning to think the crime was based on the race and gender of Christopher Lane.

  25. Dreadnaught
    August 27th, 2013 @ 8:11 AM

    @TRUTH p.

    It most assuredly was, the problem is nothing will happen, its only a hate crime if it is the other way around.

  26. MB
    August 27th, 2013 @ 2:02 PM

    @Truth…one of the boys looks like he could be biracial to me (the one with light brown hair), but the other two look undeniably black. I haven’t seen their parents, though. But yes, I agree that it could definitely have been motivated by the fact that Chris Lane was white. I wouldn’t be surprised if they laughed about it after they killed him.

    This world is terrifying sometimes. :(

  27. Truth P.
    August 27th, 2013 @ 11:52 PM

    @MB it seems that way to me too.I’m actually hoping that this ISN’T the case.This could end up meaning danger for innocent black people

  28. MB
    August 28th, 2013 @ 5:07 PM

    @Truth…you are so right! I mean, yes, a lot of racist WM have killed innocent Black people and we should always keep that in mind.

    But I think some folks (like these little punks) decide to target innocent non-black people and due to the history of race relations in this country, it most likely won’t be viewed as a hate crime.

    All of the evil and violence and hate just needs to stop…I wish it would.

  29. JaliliMaster
    August 29th, 2013 @ 7:07 PM

    Actually, one of them was black (the one who made the 90% of white people are nasty comment). The other one (who pulled the trigger) is biracial. His mother is white, I have no idea if his black father is in the picture. The third boy (who drove the car) is white, and he even has a pregnant teenage girlfriend.

    At first, I didn’t buy the whole ‘hate crime’ angle. I thought some people were just reluctant to believe that a bunch of ‘kids’ could just randomly murder an innocent stranger because they……..were………’bored’! However, I have become quite disgusted with how so many negroes on t.v have been so willing to dismiss the online racist rants of one of the killers, and keep on mentioning that one of them was white. If it had been the other way around, and a white teenage boy had killed a young, goodlooking, black male university student, would they be wiling to dismiss his racist rants? There was even a bm on the news trying to blame it on some new type of drugs, even though there has been no indication that these three fools were high (not that it’s relevant).

    The father of the black one even said that his son was ‘innocent’, because he didn’t ‘pull the trigger’. Black folks need to understand that the time when they could say stuff, then complain when others say the EXACT SAME THING BACK has passed. These three thugs are going away for a long time, hopefully for the rest of their lives.

  30. Oshun
    August 30th, 2013 @ 1:55 PM

    Hi Eva,

    I see your post and I raise you one.

    This mess…right…here at an HBCU:

    http://www.rustcollegeabuse.com/

  31. Oshun
    August 30th, 2013 @ 2:03 PM

    @MB

    I have noticed this too. It seem like these random attacks of craziness whether due to race, gender, or sexual orientation..crimes against children… people seem unhinged.

    I was watching then news the other night and I can’t remember, but someone threw out a stat about the gender ratios shifting. I loosely recall the commenter saying that over age 18 women start to outnumber men, but due to gender preferences at birth and violence against women – those numbers are shifting for the first time in history. It is not a dramatic shift- yet, but it was noticeable to take note.

  32. Nysee
    September 1st, 2013 @ 6:43 PM

    I have found another place that is bigger and paying a 100.00 more. It still in the safe neighborhood and it is worth the space. My family have borrowed money from my mother. My brother has borrowed 5,000.00 from my mother because she was the only one saving money. Now my father is upset because my brother has not paid back and then when my mother brings it to his attention, then he takes pot-shots at me because he feels I don’t help my mother enough. That is a bold face lie. My mother has 3 children and our parents are elder and even though they get around, we still check on them. Before my aunt passed away, her children would leech off her too. People don’t take kind to being used and when my mother says something to my brother, he gets an attitude. Much like DBRBM do. So many Black women are being used to the hilt that they can’t breathe themselves because everyone is gauging them at all times. The picture are very beautiful and I glad you have the rest and relaxation that was needed. I need to look in to Atlantic City. Seems like a very beautiful and lively place.

    GoldenAh: Glad to hear you’ve moved to a better & bigger place. I need to do something like throw out furniture and get a badly needed paint job. Stuff like that will make you feel better.

    If your Mom gave your brother a check w/ a note saying “loan” or any other proof – she could sue him in small claims court. She could win by default if he’s a no show. Although I doubt that she would want to sue. When it comes to relatives and loans, people will have to regard it as a gift with no expectation of payment.

    The Shore is nicer during late August, early September period – less crowds and a rebuilt, refreshed boardwalk does help.

  33. Oshun
    September 4th, 2013 @ 1:48 PM

    @ Nysee

    Congratulations! That is awesome! Good to see you making positive changes. :)

    I am mad at your brother. I’ll bet of your father was involved he would have never gotten that money or not nearly as much as he did. I am so sorry. I hate your mom did that. The fact that he cops an attitude says it all.

    It is not your job to financially support your mom. It would be nice for you to help her out, but you have to take care of yourself and when it happens, your immediate family. Wow! This is more of that – take an anchor and tie it around BW’s necks. Most of us can’t do this unless we are super rich. This should definitely not be entertained especially if it is at the expense of your own financial health.

    Your brother is a jerk and he is trying to guilt you into being a financial mammy mule. How exactly is he helping her? Especially with his borrowing enough to buy a nice used car and not paying it back? That money should be in your mom’s retirement account.

    Thinking of you and sending you supportive thoughts…:)

  34. Oshun
    September 4th, 2013 @ 1:55 PM

    My aunt has had a nervous breakdown. She was released from the hospital this morning. The last time I saw her she was sitting like a zombie in my mother’s bedroom. She is barely able to walk.

    They told her that she needs psychiatric follow up care. Her car is being pulled this week and the gas was turned off.

    I was afraid to let my mom go by herself so when we went to pick her up and then swung by her house, we discovered her son, his wife, and their two children all in bed relaxing at 10am.

    When his mother was hospitalized he did not move or even go to check on her. He told her before she left with us today, “I don’t know how you are going to get back and forth to work after they pull your car this week.”.

    As she is standing there, hair all wild, with the hospital band still on.

    I am just stunned.

    GoldenAh: Sorry to hear about your Aunt, Oshun. Just reading this is making me twitch. I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s done everything she could for her son. I don’t know why some men are so selfish. It’s a disease.

    I’ll be frank, on days when it’s too much for me at any job – I leave right then and there. I tell them I’m feeling sick and go right home. Sometimes I’ll take the next day off. We have to get in the habit of breaking it off and running away. There’s no shame in it. Being “strong” all the time ends up breaking us.

    I might be wrong, but I believe there’s a government program to help people keep the utilities on. Unfortunately, she’ll have to go down to an office, fill out tons of forms to make a request for help and that could be a hellish thing to endure with her current situation.

    I hope your aunt gets better.

    I heard a story about a couple who sold their home and didn’t tell the father-in-law (who lived with them) about it. He didn’t find out until the new owners showed up. So, if your Aunt feels inclined, she could sell the house and let the son figure out where he’s “going to back and forth from.”

  35. Khadija Nassif
    September 5th, 2013 @ 7:25 PM

    @Oshun,

    I’m so sorry to hear about your aunt. I’ll pray for her. {sigh}

    Unfortunately, I’ve seen this sort of thing happen before. More than once, I’ve strongly suggested to more than one over-burdened, middle-aged (and older) BW that they stop muling for DBR relatives. They didn’t listen, got angry at me, and went on to allow themselves to be run down into a sick bed by the stress of engaging in hardcore muling.

    And once they got sick (and were no longer useful), the DBRs they were carrying promptly “forgot” about that particular Mammy Mule, and found another Mammy Mule/host body to leech off of.

    It’s always sickening to watch this type of situation play itself out. And one can’t help these mule-women because they’ll use whatever you give them to prop up the DBRs. If you help the mules, then you end up being indirectly pimped by the same DBRs who are pimping the Mammy Mule. All one can do is get clear of the mule-women; and pray they come to their senses before it’s too late.

  36. FoxyCleopatra
    September 5th, 2013 @ 8:26 PM

    @ Khadija,

    I can tell you that you aren’t telling these older ‘mule type’ bw anything they dont already know. They’ve also seen how it ends up for other black women who have engaged in similar stupidity. I personally dont even bother anymore. When these leeching dbrbm screw these bw mules over, they know not to come moaning to me about it.

    Also, these dbr leeches know the type of bw to try that nonsense with.

  37. Khadija Nassif
    September 5th, 2013 @ 10:25 PM

    @FoxyCleopatra,

    I hear you. Nobody does anything totally for “free.” There’s always some sort of emotional payoff/gratification involved in people’s choices. Ranging from the simple pleasure of doing a small good deed to the toxic, dysfunctional, and ultimately self-destroying emotional payoffs involved in Mammy Mule/martyr behavior.

    When I see anybody I care about doing Mammy Muling, I say just enough so that my conscience is clear. And then I wash my hands of the mess if that woman persists in that mule-type behavior.

  38. Oshun
    September 8th, 2013 @ 12:29 AM

    Thank you so much Goldie.

    I wish I could say that I was not as upset as I am, but I am.

    She has done that and then some. I come to find out that when he was in the Navy, she was sending him money every month. Also he and his bride spent about 30k on their wedding. Her mom put in 15k and they came up with the rest.

    Instead of getting a home- they had a 30k wedding. On top of that they had a 2 bedroom apts worth of furniture in storage in virginia where they were based that they allowed the storage company to auction because they chose not to keep up the payments.

    People this stupid should not breed. I would have taken 2k from the 15 my mom gave me went and got my stuff, put a few thousand down on a house in a so so neighborhood even if I had to rent with the option to buy and called it a day. I couldn’t respect a man who would make me move into his mother’s house on an indefinite basis.

    And my cousin’s wife’s parents want nothing to do with them. His MIL told them flat out that they cannot and will not under any circumstances live with her. I think is it because the MIL is married and her husband is old school. I dont think he nor she would tolerate this at all.

    I dont think he is being selfish. I think he is abusive. Extremely abusive. It makes me boil so much. There is a long list of expletives I want to say to my obese cousin and his beach whale of a wife. He even allows his to disrespect his mom. She told her once that she needed to get some “di_ _” (you fill in the blank) because that is why she was so mean. It could not be me. How is she being mean? By preventing a family of 4 from being homeless?

    “I’ll be frank, on days when it’s too much for me at any job – I leave right then and there. I tell them I’m feeling sick and go right home. Sometimes I’ll take the next day off. We have to get in the habit of breaking it off and running away. There’s no shame in it. Being “strong” all the time ends up breaking us.”

    You are wise. I don’t get why she hasn’t put her foot down by now.

    There are a few. One of the peeps at the hospital told us about The Red Cross. We went and someone took pity on her and they gave her an appointment this past Friday. These people were booked up for almost two months straight.

    The thing is that she needed a notarized statement from her lazy so-and-so son saying that he wasn’t working. He told her he would have it Friday before her appointment. Then when the time came he told her that he didn’t have it and she didn’t need it. He nor his wife would do it. I am steaming as I type this.

    I wish I could say otherwise, but this is not going to end well. I just feel it. I hate to say it.

    I am so upset because their landline had gotten turned off a few months back. Now this week her cell phone was turned off. We went by there today and I don’t know if they pulled the car or what, but she wasn’t there. Her obese son was there I believe, but he wouldn’t open the door.

    1. her boss has been calling my mom.
    2. her coworkers have been calling my mom because they are concerned. I don’t know if she broke down at work or what??
    3. The car dealership has called my mom a few times.

    She must have listed my mom as an emergency contact, but we have no way of reaching her.

    I want to detach, but I can’t and seeing/hearing my mom be so upset is not helping. The last time I saw her she was so disoriented. Her words/grammar was off, she was spacey, she was mumbling, couldn’t walk. I don’t know if it was the meds they may have given her or just this is the way she currently is because of her breakdown or what. I do know that her thinking was highly disordered.

    “So, if your Aunt feels inclined, she could sell the house and let the son figure out where he’s “going to back and forth from.”

    I wish! :) The thing is this fat slob has a car. I didn’t know this until we went by the house. And come to find out that in the past my aunt paid his car note for him many times so he wouldn’t lose it. She even let him use her car to go back and forth to work before he got his own car. He had a job with a local cable company which he promptly quit because he said they didn’t have health benefits. He is also a trained electrician. That was his job in the Navy. My aunt even bought him tools. He could earn a steady income doing electrician work on the side in peeps homes.

    I have never seen a man so sorry in my life.

  39. Oshun
    September 8th, 2013 @ 1:17 AM

    Hello Khadijah!

    So nice to see you around!

    Thank you so much. Your prayers are much appreciated. :)

    I did not see this coming. I had never seen anyone have a mental breakdown before. I was stunned and didn’t know how to respond. It was hard to look at someone who had x, y, z personality traits be reduced to crying, babbling, and zoning out. It was like looking at a living dead person at times.

    The only other aunt here locally besides my mom is pretty much useless. She is illiterate and lives in public housing. Her daughter is an alcoholic who is unemployed. The granddaughter – I posted about her on your blog. She was the teenager being statutorily raped by the 26 year old man and his other women (all adults) wanted to beat her up for it.

    Well she had his child sometime ago. That child has 4 half siblings nearly the same age located within a 2 block radius.

    She is now 17 and living with some 30+ year old guy. She did not graduate high school and was recently fired from her job at Taco Bell.

    She also just gave birth to her second child, a boy, with a different adult male. Not the male she is living with – nor the father of her first child.

    Her second child has several severe physical disabilities. She has been denying that the baby is hers to others because the child has birth defects. Everyone knows that she was pregnant and everyone knows she gave birth. So she may be on the fantasy island nervous breakdown express train pretty soon too. The elderly illiterate grandmother is taking care of both of these children.

    “It’s always sickening to watch this type of situation play itself out. And one can’t help these mule-women because they’ll use whatever you give them to prop up the DBRs. If you help the mules, then you end up being indirectly pimped by the same DBRs who are pimping the Mammy Mule.”

    This is so true. A lot of this stuff is very sickening and scary. It used to be bad, but now a lot of people are in situations that are really bad. I care about these people, but I just can’t be near them. I feel like my air is getting cut off when I just think about these layers and layers of drama and coonery.

    I do worry for my mom though because she is so upset by this. My mom used to give my aunt who had the nervous breakdown soap and toilet tissue so she could hide it from her son as they would use hers and not buy any.

  40. Oshun
    January 25th, 2014 @ 1:30 PM

    Couldn’t think of anywhere else to put this, but the warnings Khadija gave are really coming to pass.

    http://www.kentucky.com/2014/01/24/3050274/rand-paul-discusses-cutting-government.html

    And he is not the only one speaking in this way.

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