For Black Women: When White Men Are Buddies With a “Brotha”

When a white man is buddies with a “brotha”, I know I don’t want him. The white guy doesn’t have to “hate” black men, but if he’s one of those white guys who feels like he needs to have street cred, or likes to call black men “brothas”, then I don’t wanna see ya. I want a guy who is “white.” He must be all the whiteness he can be: Abercrombie and Fitch, Brooks Brothers type of man, yo.

So if a white man is getting even within firing range of the toxic zone misogynistic mentality of some of these black male cretins, that tells me his mind is getting polluted with vicious anti-bw propaganda. And I’ve met my share who wanna be down with the homies.

Oh, hell no. Go away.

Why?

Well, looky-looky here. I want to bring your attention to this comment by Paul G. all excerpted from Clutch online. His comment is part of the article: The View From the Other Room: What White Men Think About Dating Black Women.

By the way, I rarely read their comments section, it’s always the same eight people.

Here’s what Paul G. said about black women (the brackets are my comments):

It’s not the media that scares me away from not wanting to date a black women, it’s black men that make me think differently.

[GoldenAh: Are you really this simpleminded?]

I say that to say this, and I’m only giving you my observation… I see a lot of black men running around with a white girl on their arm, which is fine, but when I’ve sat down with brothers and asked them why they don’t like dating black women, they always have something negative to say about you guys, whether it be your attitude, your jealousy, or the thought that you guys want to play the man of the house. I don’t need to watch to TV to see what I can see when I walk down the block. But I don’t have to buy into that either, which I don’t, but I am aware of what’s being said about yall by your own men.

[GoldenAh: They are not my men, or our men. And that, dear Sir, is the problem right there.]

It’s a shame to see that. – Paul G.

I don’t know the man. I’ve skimmed over the comments of all of the white guys whose comments make up part of the article. But this guy’s words hung around like an eye stinging fart in an elevator.

It just reads like, “Who you goin’ to believe? Me or your lying eyes?” (Richard Pryor).

Remember that song, “Don’t ask my neighbor, come to me”? Well, my advice is, if you want to know about black women: come talk to us. The “brothas” hate their own mothers and sisters, that should tell you everything what’s wrong with them.

A guy like Paul G. can continue to stay far far away from black women, because he values the words of anti-bw misogynists over valuing us as just women. The guy is a coward, plain and simple. He, too, is a sexist racist. That’s my take. He can dress it up in blaming how “da brothas” around him talk their crap, or whatever negativity he’s looking for in the media, but at the end of the day: he is taking heed.

If you wanted to know the kind of white guys to stay away from, Paul G. fits the profile.

I ain’t mad at the dude, he’s made me realize how poisonous and evil these negroes are.

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72 Replies to “For Black Women: When White Men Are Buddies With a “Brotha””

  1. I find those BM crabs in a barrel usually want the WM for themselves as I live in San Francisco and it has happened to me. Out and out homothugs and down low closet cases stepping either to me or my (ex)WM talking that ish. I told one BM homothug (in his ear): Honey there are enough WM for you to get one, too!

    GoldenAh: Funny that you say that: I’ve been reading some stuff coming from Don Lemon (CNN reporter) since he’s out of the closet. The first thing he felt he needed to do was talk crap about black women. Apparently, we’re his competition for other men or some strange ish like that. The mentality and attitude doesn’t shock me, ’cause it makes more sense than guys who pretend they are straight and talk down black women to white men.

  2. I’m 21 and a white guy and trust me no white guy with any sort of sense would think of asking a black guy about black women, if anything they would search the internet and end up at a place like here, but the way i look at it is black guys complain about and hate 2 main things 1. white men 2. black women – they blame white men for everything that WM have and BM don’t and what ever they cant try to blame on white men they blame on black women like emotional stuff and why they are gay lol, which WM have nothing to do with the gay problem and how BW do i have no idea….(i think its called a “personal problem”) so basically BM just cant take blame for anything and they have to blame someone and it aint going to be themselves, but if i was to date a black woman i definitely wouldn’t let BM or the media detour my decisions because there is 3 things you shouldn’t give any attention to and thats satan,the media and BM

    GoldenAh: Hello there! Thanks for the feedback. Your observations are very astute. Why don’t more men have the kind of sense you have at 21?!? 😀

    Glad to see that you are someone who makes up his own mind. I suspect most white men do the same.

    Thanks for stopping by.

  3. @GoldenAh, well probably because most white guys have not witnessed BM picking on BW in some of the ways i seen them when i was younger, when i was 11 yrs old i went to basically a summer daycare and there i saw this black girl about 12y/o being picked on by 3 black boys about 13y/o for no reason except she was on the heavier/large size and that’s about the only reason i could figure, so me being me and doing as I’ve been taught i wasn’t going to tolerate it so i walked up to them and started telling them what i thought about the whole ordeal and what i was going to do if they didn’t stop and after a little bit they walked off because i wasn’t going to back down plus they weren’t suppose to be where we were anyway, but of course this wasn’t the end of it i spent most of the summer arguing with these idiots over the same reason several different times, but i didn’t mind because me and her were friends the entire summer, so basically i guess black guys hating BW is something they pick up early

    GoldenAh: You sir, are a hero! You spared some poor girl a summer of misery. That’s a display of decent character right there: helping someone from being bullied. Some people would walk away, because they’d assume it’s a “black thing”, but you did the right thing and intervened.

    Hat tip to your folks for raising such a fine young man. 🙂

  4. Thanks, I’ve read some of the posts and stuff on here and i like your blog, it gives alot of insight on IR subjects that Ive been curious about

    GoldenAh: The information goes both ways … when you share, we learn as well, which is most welcomed.

    Cheers. 😀

  5. Hi Golden Ah

    You wrote in response to my post above : The mentality and attitude doesn’t shock me, ’cause it makes more sense than guys who pretend they are straight and talk down black women to white men.”

    BM who talk down BW to WM are GAY using misogyny as a cover hiding in plain sight wanting that dck for themselves. Rolling eyes and yawning at those bitter queens!

    There are many types of GM, I live in San Francisco and can identify BW hating closet cases immediately. I suggest a blog post about it since you’re much more eloquent than I?

    GoldenAh: Hmm. I think the likelihood is slight, but it might happen. Can’t make any promises. A lot of times I forget what I’m going to write about. 🙂

    I will say that I believe that men should pick the team they want to “bat” for and stay there. They should be free to get out of the clost, be proud, and stay with that team. Then they need to leave women the hell alone. 😀

  6. As a 22 year old bw, I feel as though I’m so done with black men, so the last thing I want is a wm trying to act black, its truly pathetic in my opinion. Growing up I’ve always found men of all races attractive I never felt like I was obligated to be with bm even though everyone from family to friends tried to convince me that I was.
    Of course as a young woman I know I’m gonna meet a lot of men who are complete idiots regardless of race before I find the one that is right for me, but the disrespect that I get from bm on a regular basis for no reason other than the fact that I am a bw is overwhelming and I refuse to deal with it anymore. I live in NYC and the daily backhanded compliments that I get from bm are ridiculous, like she has a nice body and she’s cute, but I don’t like black girls, I’m like if u don’t like bw why even open your mouth to say something about me. So I’ve begun to not even pay bm any attention at all, and I must admit sometimes I feel guilty because I feel as though I shouldn’t treat them all the same, but then one says or does something dumb and that guilt goes away.

    By the way I just stumbled upon your blog, and I’m just happy that you’re keeping it real regardless of anyone’s opinions.

    GoldenAh: Hello StarDust, welcome aboard! 😀

    I’m from NYC – now living elsewhere – and I know exactly how you feel. You cannot walk the street, especially this time of year, without negroes acting up.

    Never ever give any rude manchild, negro, punk, thug, half-wit, phony “good black man” a second chance, because you feel guilty and should cut him some slack. All men, every single one of them, must meet your high standards. Otherwise, if you give one of those clowns a break (and you are too precious to give it away to any of them) you will regret it for the rest of your life. You know this already, so that information puts you 20 years ahead of all the other young ladies around you.

    If you are looking to get married in a couple of years, start figuring out how to screen and find a quality man now. It takes time, but you will get there.

    Thanks for stopping by StarDust. 😀

  7. @ GoldenAh

    Thanks for the advice. I don’t intend to waste any of my time on someone who can’t even approach me properly. It’s a shame that I feel more comfortable when men from other races approach me because they usually come correct and if I turn down their advances I don’t have to worry about being cussed out simply because I’m not interested.

    GoldenAh: You are welcome, StarDust. Don’t ever let guilt be your guide. Always treat yourself best; you deserve it. If some “man” cannot treat you with respect, forget they exist and don’t worry about it. Black males who cannot come correct have never been and never will be your problem.

    Take care. 😀

  8. “Funny that you say that: I’ve been reading some stuff coming from Don Lemon (CNN reporter) since he’s out of the closet. The first thing he felt he needed to do was talk crap about black women. Apparently, we’re his competition for other men or some strange ish like that. The mentality and attitude doesn’t shock me, ’cause it makes more sense than guys who pretend they are straight and talk down black women to white men.”

    ~GoldenAh

    I’ve noticed since I was a teen that many BM want to be women. Or at least they want to be treated as if they were women. It’s very strange. And a HUGE turn off!

    I suspect that is where the Black male need to compete with BW comes from. Not all of these BM can be gay — there are just too many of them. Every BW I have ever known, who worked in an office environment with a BM, is/was either sexually harassed, personally denigrated or professionally sabotaged by said BM. Even in cases where they were the only people of color in the entire office/company!

    BM don’t believe they are man enough to compete with WM/HM/AM but they think they can push us down, because there are so many sister soldier types willing to help them do it. It is so beyond pathetic. No real man would ever set out to compete with a woman. They would consider it beneath them.

    GoldenAh: I used to follow DL (heh) on twitter. I liked the guy. He’s handsome. Very young looking for his age. I had a lot of sympathy for him when he said that he was abused as a child. But I am so damn tired of reading that because I am a black woman I have issues with homosexuals, gay black men, or I want to compete with them for a man. Oh, hell no.

    Where does that kind of wacky backward ass logic derive from? White people seem to treat women who want to “cure” gay men with sex as a joke, but there’s only hostility towards black women who sorta think that way. What does that tell you?

    Plus, I never had, or will, have any desire to get in between two men who are interested in each other. I am all for getting out of their way and leaving them alone. None of my business.

    Girl, nearly every job I worked had a black guy who worked at making my life hell. I don’t know what’s the matter with them, but I prefer to be where they’re not. I need it for peace of mind.

    Men and women can compete, they just need not be sore losers about it. 😀

    Thanks for adding to the discussion, Andrea. Very thought provoking. 🙂

  9. “Plus, I never had, or will, have any desire to get in between two men who are interested in each other. I am all for getting out of their way and leaving them alone. None of my business.”
    ~GoldenAh

    I could not agree more. I do not, and never have, found gay men attractive.

    “Girl, nearly every job I worked had a black guy who worked at making my life hell. I don’t know what’s the matter with them, but I prefer to be where they’re not. I need it for peace of mind.”
    ~GoldenAh

    That’s easy to believe. I don’t get the purpose if their behavior either. A BW friend of mine once theorized that many Black men feel a compulsive need to make others dislike them, so they can feel justified in playing the victims of society at large and BW, in particular. I’m not sure I agree; I have my own theory about that behavior.

    “Men and women can compete, they just need not be sore losers about it. 😀 ”
    ~GoldenAh

    That wasn’t the kind of competition I was talking about. The women who are being harassed don’t even share the same positions in their companies as the BM who are torturing them. They just happen to work for the same company.

    I was actually referring to the competition for a place in society. Not in any business they may work for. BM often think of Black people as being bottom of the barrel, but think that if they can push BW further under it will help them rise to the top somehow.

    Also, I have come across BM who want the BW they date (not ww/hw/aw) to take them out to dinner and movies, open doors for them, and generally treat them like “ladies” when they aren’t even women. It’s creepy as hell… to me anyway.

    I have never encountered men of another ethnicity –unless they were “women trapped in a man’s body”– who wanted to be treated like ladies, only BM. And even those men didn’t expect actual women to treat them like ladies.

    GoldenAh: Thank you for clarifying that point, Andrea. Wow. I’ve met useless BM, but I’ve never met those that bad. Then again, it’s been well over a decade plus since I went anywhere with a BM. I don’t date them anymore, nor do I associate with any. I simply cannot be bothered. It’s too much work.

  10. Oh, I just realized I didn’t add my theory. Which is this: BM think that BW get a pass for being women. That we go to a college and we immediately get admitted, SATs be damned. That we are “given” diplomas, doctorates, etcetera, no effort on our part required.

    I’ve had BM tell me that we — BW, don’t have to study hard, or work hard to become successful. They really do believe (many of them anyway) that if they were women they would just as successful as the most successful BW, despite their current lack of effort.

    This is complete and utter bull, of course. But they think that they have the right to treat BW like crap on the job, because in their minds (and only in their minds) we get a free pass for being a woman from everyone else.

    GoldenAh: I remember standing on line years ago overhearing a BM saying the same thing. I wanted to find the white man who he think put me through college, ’cause I was still paying back the loans at that time. I had to hustle every step of the way.

    These negroes say these things to discount the hard work we put into everything. We don’t have an easier path, but they don’t want to acknowledge that they’re too lazy to do better. Right now, they devote themselves to getting a free ride off of BW. Part of this ploy is guilt tripping, and too many BW fall for it.

    I don’t hesitate going to HR if any negro on the job harasses me; I wouldn’t care if he was the CEO. I let it slide about three times, before I start documenting their behavior. I think they assume I’m like the other go-along-with-the-BS black women. They seem shocked when they get fired. Oh, well. 😀

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