2 Replies to “Shyness and Society Anxiety”

  1. I have social anxiety. I was diagnosed October 2008 and have been actively working toward recovery ever since. It’s been hard, because that irrational thinking has been ingrained in me since early childhood… but lots of people don’t quite understand the disorder.

    A few people ask me what it felt like to have social anxiety. I asked them if they became quite nervous–shaking, blushing, sweating, nauseous, etc.–when they were about to make a speech. Since public speaking is among the most common fears, the answer is often yes. Then I ask them to imagine what they would feel like if they felt like this every day, for almost every situation that involved social interaction or some sort of (perceived) scrutiny. Working in small groups, participating in meetings, even using the public bathrooms for some. I think it’s then that people get the point…but then they want to know *why* I feel that way.

    Anyway, it has not been easy growing up with this disorder and I am glad I was diagnosed at 18. Now I can look forward to having the kind of life I want 🙂

    Thanks for shedding light on this topic, and I hope that more people can understand what a lot of people like myself go through every day.

    GoldenAh: You are fortunate. I grew up very sheltered. Even into my teens I always had a chaperon or constant adult supervision. Back in my day I was just quiet. Quietly having a heart attack. I’ve come a long way, but I’m still iffy around a number of situations. I used to be afraid to raise my hand to say anything in college, until I said to myself: “Hey, I’m paying for this. The professors work for me.” Worked like a charm.

    It’s a life long process. Good luck to you, Mystia. Thanks for stopping by. 😀

    Useless trivia: Michael Dell, CEO of Dell, is an extreme introvert and incredibly shy. I heard that Lawrence Fishburne is to some extent. Proving that it doesn’t necessarily stop anyone from achieving their goals or dreams.

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