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Narcissism for Black Women: The Very Good and Healthy Expression of Deep Self-Love, and Extreme Self-Devotion. Why? Because It's Good For Ya! And Sometimes I Write about Natural Hair, Among Other Things


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Rihanna – Stay ft. Mikky Ekko | Pink – Just Give Me a Reason ft. Nate Ruess

He’s so very cute, that Mikky Ekko. Doesn’t she look like she’s trying to fart in the tub at the end? That expression on her face…. Like the video, I only wish they’d been fair and have him without that sweater on. Nice arms.  😀   I like this song too.  

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Decepticons: The Jason Collins Story and Wasting Years of Your Life Waiting on Him

Long-winded title, but hoping you get the point. Maybe you’ve heard about it. Maybe you’ve been blissfully unaware of the hullabaloo that’s dominated the mainstream media for a couple of days. See, what happened is an NBA baller (snicker) earned his 15 minutes of fame by declaring that he is – wait for it – wait for […]

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Black Women: We all cannot be instant best friends

In my opinion, friendships grow in the same manner as other relationships. There is a courtship or getting to know you phase. There is the gradual “tell me more about yourself” or “I’m telling you more about myself” phases. You share ideas. You share mildly humorous short stories. You share your food. You share your […]

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When Am I Gonna Write About ‘Black Love’?

One of these days, when I have the time… and it is Black History Month. Although if folks want to get the ball rolling you may start talking about it. 🙂

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Announcement: swirlingandmarriage.com

Introducing a website dedicated to dating, relationship, and coaching services for black American women who want to date interracially or internationally. Swirling & Marriage is brought you to by a truly awesome member of the BWE community Lorraine Spencer. In 2010 Lorraine helped highlight some sisters, which achieved international newspaper coverage. She also placed ads […]

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Relationship Barriers: Black Women, White Men and Other Non-Black Men

Note: Let me put my caveats up front. This post obviously does not apply to each and every black woman, since some of us are flexible, flirtatious, and at ease with white and other non-black men. The Swirl Imperative: Becoming More Social There is no shame in lacking a flirting game or being a bit […]

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Black Woman: Would You Marry a Blue Collar White Man?

The Question Asked of me by C.B.: If you are educated, would you or have you married a blue collar wm? Many folks are quick to suggest bw take or accept a lower level bm on the academic and economic label. Why is this a problem if a bw marries a wm on a lower […]

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Continuing The Nice Good … Love Is a Numbers Game, Play It Serious

How to Play It Serious The best information always comes from the comments section. I’d like to highlight these tips from Lisa: I started reading BWE blogs when I was 27 and now I’m married at 32. I might still be thinking about all the time I have and feeling that there’s “no rush” if […]

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National Dating Standards Lowered

From the Onion, where it’s sometimes hard to tell the truth from fiction. The goal is to make dating easier for everybody. Notice who the first interviewee is. {{eyebrows raised}} Yet, I could see the standards board becoming a reality, especially with this “we control everything” government. Of course, it’ll be run by the TSA […]

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The Nice Good Black Man

Using an interesting quote from Classic NYer: But that being said, perhaps I can show you another point of view. Take for example my brother, a stand -up individual raised by my mother and father with correct morals, treats his mother and two sisters with respect, graduated with degrees and working on another one, acts […]

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I Hurt This Black Male’s Feelings. Weep For Him.

“Brian M.” has something to say. These are all his words. This kinda stuff one cannot make up. Go forth and tell us how you feel, kind Sir: Now look let me say this up front I am not here to pick a fight with you or anything I just going to say this because […]

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Black Actress Review: Just Wright – Big Boned Gurl Gets Good Guy Balla

I like Queen Latifah (Dana Owens), so I am willing to sit down and watch her movie(s). Long Descriptions Ahead Did I like Just Wright? To be honest, I dunno. Sometimes I’m too busy thinking about its message to appreciate whether it was fun to watch or not. What message? Oh, the Good Employed Hard […]

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A Brutal Murder in NYC: Some Women Better Wake Up!

Bellydancer quote – on why it’s good to be selfish: That is why I think some black women are afraid of BWE women is because they are tired of their trifling sons and other male relatives living and mooching off them and are looking at us like why don’t you want to take them off […]

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Our Cinderella Has Blossomed: Monae Gives Us An Update

I love good news. I love to hear when things are looking up for young black women. Monae is a contributor  from an older thread, For Black Women: Why White Men are a Better Choice. She asked for help and received a delightful outpouring of advice. Here’s an update from our young lady: OMG, it’s […]

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Black Women – Devil’s Advocate: Are Black People Doomed?

It’s the last day of September, Devil’s Advocate* month. It’s round up time. Before I begin, I have to highlight these fantastic blogs for their incisive commentary: Black Women’s Interracial Relationship Circle: 5 things bw need to realize about the current black social milieu Acts of Faith In Love & Life: Pimps, Predators & The […]

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Black Women – Devil’s Advocate: You Gotta Chase a White Man

It’s September, and it’s Devil’s Advocate* month. Let’s have some fun, shall we? You’ve been dateless, man-free, and frustratingly single this entire summer, month, year, decade, or century. All these BWE / BW-IR blogs are starting to work your last nerve. Why? You are getting so effing tired of hearing all these damn rules of […]

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For Black Women: Please Have Sex With White Men

That got your attention, didn’t it? Apparently, my old, old post Why White Men are a Better Choice was interpreted (by the mentally handicapped and functionally illiterate) as a heartfelt plea for black women everywhere to sex it up with all the nearest and available white men. It seems that I’ve been successful at convincing […]

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For Black Women: When Your Choices Make Other People Or Your “Friends” Mad

The following comment, and question, was sent to me by the intelligent and lovely Chocolatestar: I wanted to send you this video and get your thoughts on this. I’m not sure if it’s just me and my strong opinionated personality, but i’m quite tired of black women bashing other black women, who call black men […]

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Ego Kills Friendship and Love

Interesting. This video got me thinking. Might not be everyone’s cup of tea though.

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